Sissy’s story and other news…..

Have I ever told you guys Sissy’s story? If you haven’t, here’s your chance, and if you have, read it again, you’ll be rewarded at the end, I promise.

Hubs and I were married in April of 2001. I was 18, and he was 20. 9 months later we decided to try to have Dee and got pregnant right away. Another 9 months passes (and 90 pounds!) and Dee is welcomed into the Robinson household on October 11th, 2002. Time goes by and Dee gets bigger and bigger. Just before his first birthday we learn that Hubs’s National Guard unit is being deployed and they’re shipping out October 12th, 2003. That’s right, one day after Dee’s first birthday. We had 2 weeks to prepare.
Thankfully the unit’s first stop is a town several hours. They get to spend the weekends at home and the weekdays there training. During one of those weekends, we get pregnant again (without trying this time). Things are stressful, to say the least. But nonetheless we’re excited and my due date is July 23rd, 2004. Several weeks later I start spotting and we lost the baby. I was crushed but most of all, Hubs was crushed. We chalk it up to stress and move on.
Times go on. Hub’s unit reaches Iraq in March 2004 and spends 12 months there. Dee keeps getting bigger. They’re sent back to the states in March of 2005….a few more months of training in the states and he’s officially out of the Guard (and home) in June 2005.
Once he’s back for good, we start talking about our next kiddo. It had been almost a year since my due date but I still wasn’t ready to try and get pregnant again. Adoption came up and started the process as soon as we refinanced our house. Yay!
When we originally started our homestudy, in September of that year, we asked for a child between the ages of 3 and 4. I was done with babies. Still being wounded from the miscarriage I decided that raising babies was not something that I wanted to do over again. As the adoption reached the referral stage, it was clear to us that a toddler was just not going to happen. Our agency gave us 2 options at this point: 1. we could wait the several months they estimate it could take, or 2. we could agree to look at the one of the files they have of paper-ready babies who were a little younger than we were requesting. We agree, cautiously, to view the files. The first file we open and there she is. Our daughter. We talk about it as I read through her paperwork. Then I realize her birthday is July 25th, 2004; she was born the week of my duedate from the miscarriage! I knew then that she was destined to be ours. We called our agency right away and accepted her. (I called weekly to check in on the little boy who we did not accept. He found a family and lives with them in Maine. His referral was accepted by them very soon after we accepted Sissy. Their blog link is on the sidebar but I won’t tell you which one.)
I believe that Kinhly was not only meant to be ours but came to us in some sort of cosmic fashion. Our little girl had to do some very important work before she came home; she had to change someone’s life. I can’t even begin to imagine what her birthmom’s story is (although I’ve already started a post addressing that, but that’s for a different time) but I’m 100% sure that Sissy had a HUGE impact on her and her future. Our girl has been very busy in her short life.
With all that being said, it’s time to announce that we’re adding to the family once again. That’s right all my faithful readers: I’m pregnant. The new baby will be here October 1st, which makes me just over 9 weeks. Since we now have Sissy, she’s healed that part of me that was wounded by the miscarriage. Hubs and I discussed it and decided that another kiddo needed to happen but soon since we’re not getting any younger. :-)
We’ve gotten alot of “of course you’re pregnant, you guys just adopted and that’s how it happens.” Well, yes, and no. For one thing, getting pregnant was never our problem. And secondly, this pregnancy wasn’t an oops. For the record we’ll be finishing the family with another adoption in several years. Perhaps Japan, Cambodia (if it reopens), or Vietnam again.
Anyway, I hope you guys can be happy along with us. I probably won’t be posting about the specifics very often, except when there’s something really exciting to say, but now the blog will be taking a slight turn from how we’ve all coped with the adoption and the transition, to how we’re preparing to handle 3 kids! 3!!! Oi Vey.

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  1. mam

    wow, big news indeed! congratulations; i’m very happy for you!

    very moving story about kinhly and how she came to you. i look forward to the still-forming birthmother post.

  2. Nina-SOS

    A BIG congratulations to you and your entire family! How exciting!

    Kinhly gets to be a big sister now!

  3. Christina

    You know I’m happy for you… and congrats on making it to the 9 week mark! Hope your first trimester hasn’t been too miserable. I think 2 homegrown kids and 2 adopted kids is perfect (hmm, wonder why? LOL). :)

  4. Destination Motherhood

    Wow, I wasn’t expecting to read that, congratulations that is big news.

  5. mommy magallanes

    Congratulations! What happy and exciting news. Children are always happy and exciting news!

  6. jenn

    Congratulations!

    I’ll add in another vote for two bio and two adopted. Is Japan open to US for adoption? We looked into it once and didn’t get very far.

    Looking forward to following your journey!

  7. Rita

    Oh Nicole that’s so great! I’m so thrilled for you and Matt. You guys will be an awesome family. I had no idea of the path you had to take before you found Kinhly. but i’m glad to hear that the bad days are behind you now. I’ll be checking in with ya for all the good news sure to come!

  8. Anonymous

    Yeah, you are finally at the tell people stage!!! October 1 will be here before you know it! Congrats!

    -Jen

  9. laurie

    YEAH!! That TOTALLY lived up to the “stay tuned 4 big news hype!” that’s awesome, good for you guys!

  10. Mia's Mommy

    hehehe I love it. I’m so glad you posted it!

    Melissa

  11. Kelly

    HOW EXCITING!! I hope that you are feeling well. I am so happy for your family.

  12. Melissa

    What fantastic news! And what an incredible journey you have had. Thank you for sharing. Kinhly is going to be a big sis! Congrats from my heart…:)

  13. Laurie O.

    Wow, wow, wow – what fantastic news!!!! I’m so excited for you guys! Congratulations and keep us posted!

  14. Susan

    Oh, congratulations! Life is always so unpredictable — isn’t it just grand?! I’m so happy for all of you.

  15. Jo

    Congratulations!!! Miss Kinhly has a very specail story.

  16. Andy

    Congrats (again :) to you and your family!

  17. Emily

    i am so happy for your family!
    what a year!

  18. Kim

    That’s wonderful news! Congratulations to the whole family!!!

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