Firsts

Sometimes it’s nice to have a fresh start at something you’ve been doing for a while. Things get stagnate, passion fads, interest gets lost. That’s what this blog is for me – a fresh start. When I started blogging a number of years ago I was big eyed and dreamy. I was 100% open with our identities, I shared where we live, where we worked, and felt that doing so meant that I trusted my readers. We went through our whole first adoption this way. Several years later at the beginning of our second adoption I suddenly became guarded and password protected the whole thing in an effort to not compromise our process. I did it thinking that dedicated readers would ask for a password to keep following along. Many did – more did not. A while later I started meeting new adoptive parents and heard numerous accounts of “I LOVED your blog but when you went password, I didn’t think you’d give it to me, so I didn’t ask.” Hearing this made me so sad!

So this is my fresh start. Blog #1 was mainly adoption related and while I tried to transition it to family stuff, it never really made it all the way there. We are once again involved in an adoption but since we are forced to be a little quieter this time around, I find myself wanting to talk about other things in the meantime. My two blogs will not be linked but I will do my best to continue to update both.

Let me introduce you to our family. “We” consist of 5 characters – well actually 6.
There’s me, Coley:

My husband of 9 years, The Hubs:

Our oldest son, Dee:

Our oldest daughter, Sissy:

Our youngest daughter, Lolee:

And our 6th member, our youngest son, King:

The Hubs and I were married in 2001 after a whirlwind courtship that had much of our family worried that we had made the wrong choice.  9 years later and people are still amazed with our “normality”.

Dee was born after a terribly uneventful 9 months – as far as everyone but my butt was concerned, she put on 90 pounds.  That was the biggest event she’s ever known.  The same goes for Lolee – although I only gained 60 pounds that time.

Sissy was adopted from Vietnam when she was 2 years old. Her adoption was super smooth and quick. We waited 6 weeks from referral to travel and spent 3 weeks traveling the amazing country of her birth. In total, from our initial agency application to return home, her adoption took 12 months – to the day. Her adjustment in country was a nightmare and I spent much of our travel time crying while wrestling with a crying toddler. We must have looked like quite the pair. She grieved during our entire trip. Once we got home and started to settle in, Sissy fell in love with Dee and their relationship helped us build a relationship with her. Years later she is a well adjusted and very healthily attached child.

King’s adoption is still in process. He is currently living in Thailand where he resides in a home specifically serving children who are HIV+. Which he is. Despite what some may think about his medical condition, his numbers are fantastic and doctors tell us that he’s doing very well. We’ve been waiting patiently (or not so patiently really) to bring him home since Sept. 2009. Currently about 8.5 months and counting. Sadly, it looks as though we are in it for another 8.5 months or so. Thankfully we have wonderful contact with the director of the home and have been getting regular photos and letters from him. It makes the wait just that much easier, and harder at the same time. Secretly I still hope to have him home by his 7th birthday in September.  But that’s probably not happenin’.

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  1. Robin

    There is no end to your giving and loving, that I will always admire about the two of you. I love how nothing is impossible and that there is always room for more. You two are truly blessed by the Gods with love and light.
    I love your family.

  2. Michelle

    Yay! A new blog with no password! I am so lame that I cannot ever remember people’s passwords and then I delete the e-mail in which said password was given to me and then I feel so lame I am afraid to ask for the password again(for the 15th time).

    Putting you into my Google Reader now.

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